The legends of King Arthur and the Knights of the Round Table are never complete without some mention of one of the original advisers – the great wizard Merlin.
Old Merlin would tell King Arthur what he needed to do in order to ensure happiness and prosperity for all the land, and as long as the King listened to his trusted adviser, all was well in the world.
Well, today we have those same types of people: we call them coaches.
There are many times when people would be well advised to listen to the wisdom of others, and a well-timed coaching relationship sometimes means the difference between taking steps down a path towards success vs. stagnation, frustration, and even misery.
The trick, as is often the case, is determining when it is that you need someone else’s help.
1) Listen to your Instincts
Every person comes equipped with an amazing ability to know whether or not they should do or not do any given thing. This ability is called instinct, and in today’s world of massive information overload, many people forget that their own “gut reaction” can be the most accurate tool at their disposal.
Ask yourself:
Is it possible for me to have the true level of success that I desire with my relationship, my money, my job, my health, etc., without having someone to help me out?
Important: Don’t shun your answer! No one wants to admit that they need help, yet there is no shame in having someone in your corner for awhile. If your instincts tell you that you could use a bit of assistance, then listen.
2) Look at your Present Results
This is kind of a no-brainer, but…
- If you’ve been trying to get rich for 10 years, but you are still living paycheck to paycheck, it may be time to concede that you need some expert assistance.
- If you have worked for 10 years trying to lose 20 or 30 pounds, but your scale is stubbornly stuck on a number that you don’t like to read, maybe you should admit that you need a helping hand.
- If you dream of a perfect world with Mr. or Mrs. Right, yet you are still bouncing from one relationship to the next, perhaps you should start combining your instinctive knowledge with the knowledge of someone who can see your life from a different point of view.
3) Use some Common Sense
The surprisingly elusive “common sense” factor will often give you a much needed wake-up call:
- Your goals of getting rich are unlikely to be realized if your claim to financial fame is 40 solid hours per week at the local McDonalds. Unless you are buying stock in the company, or you are planning to stick it out for the (high paying?) upper management positions, very few people become wealthy working at fast food restaurants.
- Your desire to be the next Mr. or Mrs. Global Fitness is not likely to be realized if you drink 4 lattes per day, your primary eating habits include a drive-through window, and your only exercise is trying to open those annoying foil ketchup packets while sitting in rush hour traffic.
- Despite your desire to be the best boyfriend/girlfriend or man/wife in the history of mankind, if you keeping dating “bad boys” or high-maintenance women who change lovers as often as you change channels on the remote, it is unlikely that you are going to succeed.
Who is Your Merlin?
Okay, so you’ve decided that you might be willing to entertain the prospect of having a coach – just for now, until you get on your feet. What next?
One-on-One Coaching
Having a life coach who works directly with you in order to empower you for success is a great way to go. Although you do have to pay a life coach for their services, the good coaches will be worth every dime, and they’ll probably end up with the title of Friend before all is said and done.
If you want to go that route, be sure to take a look at the coaching program offered by Gary Glasscock over at Manifesting your Life. Gary has the whole coaching thing covered, having successfully trained clients in the U.S., India, Australia, and New Zealand.
He is a Certified Master SPIRIT Life Coach, and is in the process of getting his doctorate in Metaphysics. Gary and I have been exchanging emails about his program, and he has just a few slots left in his next coaching cycle. He wants to fill those slots with people who are serious about making positive changes in their lives, so if that’s you, swing on by and check out Gary’s 3 Sessions for the Price of 4 promotion, which ends this month.
e-Coaching
If you want to go with a coaching modality that is not quite so “official,” then e-Coaching may be just the thing for you. It can be just as effective as one-on-one coaching, provided you listen to (and take action on!) the things that your coach advises.
I have just launched an e-Coaching program here at Today is that Day, based on my popular eBook, Energy Harmonics, and it is the first time that I have have offered any type of paid coaching service. People recently, as well as in the past, have told me that I would make a great coach, so I have decided to set up a limited coaching program that is open to people who are serious about making positive changes.
To get all of the details, click on through to the Energy Harmonics e-Coaching Program.
Whether you decide to check out Manifesting Your Life, swing by the Energy Harmonics e-Coaching page, or even if you are just going to grab a mastermind partner, the real point of this post is this:
It’s okay to ask for help. Only a fool thinks they already know it all!
Coaching is the way to go. I was enrolled in the SuccessTracs program at Peak Potentials for a 1 year contract and became good friends with my coach.
The wisdom that comes from a coach who is already in a field of expertise that you would like to learn about is worth it’s weight in gold.
The E-Coaching idea is a new one to me. I will have to check it out.
thanks Aaron.
Stephen Martile
Personal Development Made Simple
http://www.stephenmartile.com
Thanks for the great article Aaron…and happy birthday my man!!
Todd
Oh, I thought you meant Merlin Mann. 🙂
Stephen,
Thanks for sharing your coaching success story!
Coaches have the unique ability to see our lives from a point of view that we couldn’t possibly see our lives from, and that alone gives them value. If they’ve got the inside scoop on something specific that we want to learn about, then so much the better!
Thank you very much, Todd! It was a great birthday, and now I’m raring to go for the upcoming year! 🙂
LOL, Jennifer! Yes, sometimes we need to call that Merlin, too! 🙂