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Personal Growth Challenge: How to Find and Date a Millionaire

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Disclaimer: This post is not a paid advertisement for the websites that are discussed, and Today is that Day is not recommending or endorsing their use. This post is meant to open the floor for discussion of this topic, and if you wish to check out the websites listed below, you do so based on your own ethical or moral standards.

As many of you know, I am the primary or co-author of 3 other blogs, in addition to Today is that Day: Fitness Destinations, The Information Underload, and The 3 Alchemists.

Now, although I will admit that my time on the other sites has been very minimal lately, that hasn’t stopped my advertising partners from sending me new marketing material. So it was that whenever I got the latest message from one such partner that I had occasion to stop and think about exactly how I wanted to handle it.

The partner in question owns the web property Slim.com, which is obviously a related service to my writing over at Fitness Destinations. However, what is not so obvious is that the people who own Slim also own the FriendFinder franchise, which is arguably one of the most popular singles/dating websites on the Internet.

I must admit that the folks at FriendFinder have a rather impressive array of niche content sites that are centered around the singles/dating scene. I will include a list at the bottom of this post if you would like to check it out.

However, the personal growth challenge that is before us now is not the whole of the FriendFinder empire, but rather just this site:

The site – exactly as it sounds – is a place for people to meet who are only interested in dating people who have a lot of money, or live an affluent lifestyle. This was the very first thought that came to my head when I first saw an ad for this site:

How shallow do you have to be in order to only date people who are rich???

I felt very justified in my instant judgment of anyone who would choose a path such as that, but then my own moral compass kicked in and I started to give the situation some more thought. Money is, after all, just one of the many forms of abundance that are available to people here on planet Earth. In fact, it is probably one of the least valuable forms of abundance! Money is just paper. For that matter, most money is not even paper; it’s just numbers in a computer somewhere.

In order to condemn someone because they will only date people who have a lot of money, I must also condemn people who will only date people with a positive attitude, or someone who is only interested in people concerned with world peace, or even someone who refuses to spend time with an individual unless they experience joy around children, animals, or goldfish.

I found myself smack dab in the middle of a moral dilemma that was bordering on a serious double standard:

  • I know that personally I am not interested in anyone who isn’t positive at least most of the time.
  • I will not spend time with people who complain a lot, rather than taking action to fix their problems.
  • Being able to have a good time in life is a prime personality requisite for anyone who wants to be a consistent part of my existence.

So, how could I look down my nose at people who are only willing to date individuals with financial abundance, when I myself am not interested in people who do not posses extreme abundance in other areas of their life?

The answer to this question (for me anyway):

Flexibility and Open-mindedness.

  • There is nothing wrong with enjoying the benefits of having a lot of money to spend, as long as you are not defined by the money, but rather use it as a tool.
  • There is nothing wrong with only dating people who have a positive outlook on life, as long as you don’t think less of people whose opinion is different than your own.
  • There is nothing wrong with chasing after world peace, as long as you don’t forget to live in and enjoy that world in the process, allowing others their own priorities as well.
  • There is nothing wrong with dedicating many of your life’s resources to some higher cause (such as the aforementioned children, animals, and goldfish), as long as you don’t snub people who have a different opinion.

No, I for one will not fall victim to and be dragged to the depths by the magnetism of my own moral compass!

I’ll date a millionaire, a pauper, an animal rights activist, or even a Sunday School teacher. I put more more value on an individual’s ability to be an individual than I put value on what they have chosen to do with that power.

So, in order to keep my journalistic writing license, at time time I am required to answer the question that I proposed in the title of this post: How to Find and Date a Millionaire.

Simple – go to MillionaireMate.com.

Not so simple – Be worth a million dollars. Regardless of how much money you have in the bank.

Related Resources:

As promised, here is a list of properties that are presently part of the FriendFinder franchise. They have a few unrelated properties as well that I will not list here.

DISCLAIMER: This list does not represent an endorsement of any of these websites, nor the lifestyles that they represent. Some of these sites are only for mature audiences. This list is provided for informational purposes only, and it is up to you to decide if you want to click through to see what each of the sites has to offer.

Adult FriendFinder
Amigos.com
Asia FriendFinder
Big Church
Filipino FriendFinder
French FriendFinder
FriendFinder
Gay FriendFinder
German FriendFinder
GradFinder.com
Indian FriendFinder
Italian FriendFinder
Jewish FriendFinder
Korean FriendFinder
LesbianPersonals.com
MillionaireMate.com
Passion FriendFinder
<a href="https://TodayIsThatDay.com/seniorfriendf
inder.php”>Senior FriendFinder

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Comments

  1. Jennifer says

    I don’t feel that it’s at all shallow to date a millionaire. For me personally, it would have to be a positive, happy, spiritual, and growth minded millionaire. 🙂

  3. Jason says

    I believe all people are of equal value… because I think that value is intrinsic, yours because you are a person, not because of anything you are or do.

    That being said, I don’t LIKE all people equally… I just think they all have equal value.

  4. aaron says

    Well put, Jason!

    It can be a hard concept for some people to grasp due to their own values/morals/ethics, but each person truly is created equal.

    Thanks for illuminating that important point.

  5. Alan says

    This is a great one Aaron. We all choose different things, it is just that they are not as publicly criticized like dating a millionaire. It all comes down to “Judge not”, all is good, everyone can do whatever they want if they feel its right. Great post!

  6. aaron says

    Thanks, Alan – I’m glad that you enjoyed the post and took the message to heart.

    Each of us has things that we want in our lives or that we look for in others, and as long as we don’t judge others for exercising that same right, then we can all play nice in the sandbox! 🙂

  7. Shauna Arthurs says

    Wow!…You know what’s amazing?

    I came here through PDP and was expecting something completely different, based on the comments I had already read.

    For me, wealth is a huge part of personal growth, and the funny thing is that as soon as I saw that site I said ‘Cool! Wish I was single!’ 🙂

    The reason this is amazing is that I once would have had the same or similar judgments and reactions that you had, Aaron, and I just showed myself that I have come a long way, baby! No judgment came through whatsoever, nor do I have any problem with the concept.

    Someone who is a millionaire, in my mind, would have the wealth mentality that I have taken such pains to cultivate in myself ie. they would be a kindred spirit. SO many people around me do not have that, and what a pleasure it would be to find like-minded individuals all in one place. It goes without saying that there would need to be so much else involved when considering someone new, such as – in my case – fitness-orientation, positivity, compassion, humor, etc.. But wealth mentality is so important to me and we all face so much lack mentality every day.

    In this community, we talk about wealth as being a very well-rounded lifestyle, including money and everything else that makes us feel joy and happiness. I spend a lot of my blogging and writing time talking about finances and overcoming lack mentality, and I spend much of my reading and personal time building my financial literacy, as well as my personal wealth. To me, that site immediately said ‘like-minded people here!’

    I guess it’s not the site itself that matters so much as our own reactions to it. I grant that my view is very different from the gold-diggers who would likely haunt such a site (oh — that was a judgment), but I’m happy at my reaction to it.

    Fun! Thanks for sharing, as always.

    Shauna @ Follow Your Path

    P.S. Hmmm…as I’m about to press ‘submit’ I notice I’m afraid of some strange backlash against my comments, as if they are offensive. Amazing what our minds can do to us. So THAT is where I need the work! 😉

  8. aaron says

    Shauna,

    You get the Gold Star for reading into and getting the most possible benefit from this post! 🙂

    Your insight into how our reaction to a site like that says so much about our present wealth mentality is right on the money, and I’m sure I’m not the only person who got some benefit from looking at it from that point of view.

    You have obviously leaped over a lot of roadblocks to attain your presently level of wealth mentality, Shauna, and if you haven’t already done so, take a moment now to pat yourself on the back for a job well done! 🙂

    Very much obliged for you sharing such educational insights, Shauna.