If you have ever gotten frustrated at the fact that you haven’t yet achieved success in any given area of life, take an honest inventory of your efforts, and then be equally honest about whether those efforts are enough to get the job done.
It’s easy to say that we are working towards something, and we may even feel that we are making a serious effort, but our efforts – like anything else in life – can become a habit, and habits are not always effective. One of the key components to success is to only spend time on practices that produce the desired results.
Despite our best intentions, we often get into the habit of continually doing things that do not bring us the results that we want, yet we do not realize it until we have expended a lot of time and energy. A mental checklist – or even a physical checklist – can help us to stay on track daily, maximizing our results, and minimizing wasted time and effort.
There are numerous success systems that people use on their road to greatness, and it falls to each person to choose and utilize whatever systems work best for them. However, no matter what system you choose, if you don’t use it properly and consistently, you won’t get the results.
Here are several popular success systems, and tips on how you can make sure you are using them effectively.
Visualization
Visualizing is basically the act of seeing yourself as being successful before you actually attain whatever success you are looking for. Visualization has long been held as one of the most effective and simple to use success systems, yet people often do not get results because they visualize ineffectively, or they do not visualize often enough.
Effective visualization includes all of the following:
- Feeling like you are actually in that present moment, rather than feeling like that moment is in the future. Visualizations are always in the NOW.
- Feeling exactly how you are going to feel when that moment actually arrives. Don’t visualize a scene in your head as if looking at a painting or a picture. Make it real and make it enjoyable by feeling the feelings of actually being there.
- Having a sense of 100% confidence and expectation whenever you visualize. You are not visualizing something that you hope is going to happen, but rather something that you KNOW is going to happen.
- Visualizing frequently, preferably several times per day. The most effective times for visualization are when you are about to fall asleep at night, and when you first wake up in the morning. However, visualization can be done anytime, anywhere.
Recommended Resources: Vision Boards, Mind Movies
Affirmations
Affirmations are basically the act of saying something over and over again – in your head or out loud – in order to “reprogram” yourself so you can attain whatever it is that you are affirming for. Unfortunately, saying something to ourselves that isn’t yet true sounds like a lie, so it feels like a lie, and we end up not believing it, and thus not getting very much out of it.
Here are some ways to get the most out of your affirmations:
- Say your affirmations out loud. We are all proficient at saying things in our head, but if that hasn’t been working, bring those statements out into the “real world”. Not only does that make your affirmations more effective, but it also helps you to realize how you truly feel about whatever it is that you are saying.
- Say your affirmations in front of a mirror. Again, realizing how you feel about what you are affirming for will help you to overcome any self-limiting beliefs about it. Say it out loud and in front of a mirror so you can look yourself in the eyes when you do it. It’s hard to lie to someone straight to their face.
- Say your affirmations in the present tense. Again, just as with visualization, you are creating something NOW, not in the future. “I am so happy and grateful now that…” as opposed to “I will be so happy when…”
- Say your affirmations many times throughout the day. Affirmations work by programming your conscious mind as well as your subconscious mind, so don’t be afraid that you’ll “overdo it” by affirming too often.
Recommended Resources: BMindful, ThinkRightNow
Meditation
Meditation is probably one of the least understood success systems because – in essence – it means to just do nothing! You just sit there, and most meditative practices will have you not even thinking, let alone doing anything else. There are other types of meditation as well, yet all of them share the goal of having you free your mind so that it can let go of the day-to-day struggles, leaving you with clarity and peace of mind.
Clarity and peace of mind may not seem very valuable to someone who wants to be on the fast track to success, yet when you consider that 90%-95% of your life is controlled by your subconscious mind, the power of clarity and peace of mind becomes immediately apparent.
Here are some ways to get the most out of meditation:
- Make sure to let go of your thoughts when you meditate. If you are just sitting there thinking about all of your problems and all of the things that you have to do, you might as well just get up and go do them. You are not getting anything out of meditation if you are not letting go and letting your mind wander.
- Make sure to stay awake. Many people cannot stay comfortable is a sitting up position for long periods of time, so they lay down to meditate. Although there are some meditations that can be used as you fall asleep, most meditations are supposed to involve conscious awareness, which you obviously don’t have if you’re asleep.
- Meditate without having some definite purpose in mind, such as trying to think of a solution to a problem. Although meditating is an incredible way to resolve issues, if you give conscious thought to the problem during the meditation, all you are doing is engaging your conscious mind, rather than your subconscious mind. Instead, think of the issue that you want to solve very briefly before you meditate, release your attachment to finding a solution for it, and then start your meditation.
- Look for answers and clarity unexpectedly, rather than immediately following your meditation. Meditation helps your subconscious mind to achieve focus and to find solutions, and sometimes that happens quickly, while other times it will take longer. If you consciously try to “rush” your subconscious mind, you will potentially shut down the entire subconscious solution-finding process.
Recommended Resources: Meditation Music, Guided Meditations
Attitude
No success system in the world is going to help you if you don’t have your mind right. You can visualize, affirm, and meditate all d
ay long, but if you don’t have an attitude of confidence, success, and expectancy, you will meet with limited results. Your attitude creates the very reality that you walk through every day, so create an environment that ensures your success by keeping your mind and your emotions focused on success, rather than failure.
Here are some ways to get the most out of your own attitude:
- Check your attitude as soon as you get up to start your day. Our dreams and/or our memories from the previous day can carry over into the new day. If those are positive, uplifting, and confident memories or feelings, then go with it. If not, then release any negativity before programming yourself for a new day by using affirmations, visualizations, and meditations.
- Check your attitude frequently throughout the day. It’s easy to “fake it until you make it” when you don’t really feel like smiling or acting confident, but faking it will only get you so far. Negativity can creep back in without you even realizing it, so set reminders or cues to go off throughout the day that snap you back into a positive, confident mindset.
- Check your attitude after a negative situation. If you get into an argument with someone, get stuck in traffic, get a negative message or piece of mail, etc., it can be very easy to fall into a feeling of gloom and doom. People who succumb to those types of feelings are not the kind of people who produce success. If you just got mad, sad, frustrated, or upset by something, now is the perfect time to go back to those affirmations, visualizations, and meditations.
Recommended Resources: Positivity Space, Manifest a Miracle
Conclusion
Everyone wants whatever it is that they want out of life, but only a small percentage of the population are willing to consistently and effectively take action in order to get what they want.
If you have been struggling to attain your desires, why not pick a success system (or two or three), and consistently apply those systems over the long-term? You’ve got nothing to lose, and everything to gain!
Hi Aaron – I really like your article.
“You are not visualizing something that you hope is going to happen, but rather something that you KNOW is going to happen.” – It’s great that you distinguish between HOPE and CERTAINTY – too often people don’t realize the difference.
Cheers – Robin
Thanks, Robin!
Yes, there is a huge difference between hoping and being certain, and that attitude shift can literally mean the difference between getting what you want, or not getting it. I’m glad I had this opportunity to remind people of that!
Besides using some sort of system religiously, the hardest part is to realize that you might need to do things totally differently.
I mean that you need to put different items on your checklist. At least this was very difficult for me (and I could kick myself for wasting so much time, energy and money). Your ‘ego’ can be in your way really big time.
— My 2 cents. Enjoy the weekend.
John,
I’m with you 100% Most of what I write comes from my own life experiences, and there have been many times when I made it a priority to do things, only to find out later that there were better ways that I should have spent that time.
Knowing what to work towards using the various success systems is the first step to be sure!
Great article, Aaron. It is so true! Many of us want instant results. We put in some effort and expect a miracle to happen. In actual fact, we are not as committed to success as we really ought to. Focus is key for success to happen!
Evelyn,
Absolutely – focusing on what you want is not only critical, but realizing the necessity for that is something that a lot of people need to do. Our lives get so hectic that the very lives we are trying to improve keep us from improving them!
It is only consistent focus on the positive changes that we want to create that then creates those changes. Just thinking about something once in awhile isn’t going to cut it!
I read somewhere that the average person looses there attention span every 6-10 seconds… so yes, people need to consistently and DELIBERATELY redirect their focus onto the things they desire to achieve. Otherwise they’ll have “pinball-like” focus that will jump all over the place and never accomplish anything.
I found that writing and reciting my goals EVERY morning without exception keeps me laser focused on where I’m going. But thats just me. Meditation and visualization may work better for others.
Wonderful article Aaron!
Steve,
Thanks for bringing up the daily writing and reading of the goals – that is another very powerful success system. As you said, we have that “pinball-like” focus, and that applies not only to our daily activities, but to our long-term plans as well.
By continually reminding ourselves of our goals – especially on a daily basis – we naturally lean towards doing things that bring those goals to fruition, rather than doing things that take us away from our desires.
Thanks for the comment, Steve!
Good article Aaron. I totally agree with you. I think people (including myself) just don’t try hard enough and we tend to lose focus on our objectives wasting time and energy on secondary things.
Many thanks for the reading.
Glad that you enjoyed it, Goldeneye.
There are so many things that people can do in order to bring success into their lives, but staying focused on the goals and the methods is critical if we want to see that success.
Very few things in life happen as “one-off” events. We need to consistently stay on task with any success system if we want to see the results.